You see me laughing and playing with my children, niece and nephews whom I love with all that I have, but what you don’t see is the effort. That effort soon became mastered, mastering pushing past my pain because the importance of creating memories for the amazing children in my life once I am gone [...]
Author: Bent But Not Breaking
I use to fear my children growing up
The shit storm
“I’m sorry this has happened to you”
Sometimes mum life sucks
The moment I confused confidence with arrogance
Following up from my last post on Instagram about calling out our own bullshit. Yesterday afternoon I met Kat John and Steve Buchler! I was thinking about a conversation I had with Steve when he asked “What do you do”. You know what I said? F*cking nothing! Literally! I said “nothing at the moment”. That [...]
Normalising what makes us human
WHEN THE FEAR OF STAYING IS GREATER THAN THE FEAR OF LEAVING
Why do you do it, Ann?
An open letter to Daniel Andrews
Dear Daniel Andrews, I speak on behalf of our city, our people and our children/youth. I speak from a place of concern and a place that GENUINELY means it when I say “we are in this together”Have you been out speaking to real people in our community about their real struggles? Not politicians, not your [...]
This is what happens when you don’t teach your kids the importance of the power that our words and actions hold. These are the side effects of trauma and bullying. This is what happens when you project your hate and insecurities onto others. This is what happens when you can’t comprehend the the fact that [...]
Numbers on tags, scales, & scars
Who is actually defining you by your tag and weight? Because the raw and blunt answer is more than likely... you. This is not only about fighting old stigmas, limited beliefs, and societies advertised unrealistic standards. This is also about taking ownership of our lives and holding ourselves accountable. It’s about acknowledging, accepting, being open [...]
Beauty and health starts in your head, not on a scale or a mirror
Diet culture can keep us facing a mirror instead of facing the world. Be healthy! Drink water! Exercise! Eat well! Nourish your body! These are all important. But there is a big difference between health and obsession. Our mindset and thought process based around diet/exercise matters. Ask yourself, are you pushing yourself too hard? Are [...]
COVID-19 and “Positive vibes only” is a mental health crisis waiting to happen
“Positive Vibes Only” is toxic, end of story. New age spiritualism is a mental health crisis waiting to happen and before you bite my head off, hear me out. I was recently discharged from hospital (not Covid19 related) During my stay I was feeling a sense of defeat, frustration, loneliness, and fear. I also had [...]
Love over fear
I am not what happened to me
I am Bent But Not Breaking
Just a few comments I have removed over the last two weeks, but I don’t take it personally. In fact, I feel sad for you. Your hateful comments towards someone you don’t know is a clear projection of your unresolved insecurities, you’re in pain, you’re hurting and you’re unhappy where you are in your life [...]
It’s been a hard week
It’s been a hard week. Truthfully, it’s been a hard year for me and it’s only February! I’m not doing great right now and that’s okay. My physical health has recently gone downhill, which of course naturally leads to emotional health effects. This too, is okay. I am only human. I recently wrote an article [...]
A simple smile saves the day!
The vows I never shared on our wedding day.
A movement to be moved by
From me to you
My ultimate goal is to be at peace with myself, to eliminate toxic feelings and elements from my life. To unlearn negative and harmful practices and thought patterns, stop checking for people that do not check for me. To create a space for myself that is nurturing for growth so that I may generate loving [...]
Motherhood: when the mental load finally takes over
Want to help someone with depression? Pretend they have the flu.
To those who have bullied me into the woman I am today
11 year old has the last say as he leaves school due to bullying
Rikki had been hurt both physically and emotionally on school property and during school hours. YouTube videos circling the internet threatening to harm him at school, restrained and kicked down, changes of behavior, sudden onset of anxiety attacks and many other experiences and side effects that I have chosen to keep private and leave for [...]
How using toothpaste helped teach my child the power of words
To the mother at the store who stared as my toddler was crying on the ground.
How a stranger, a mother, and a young boy moved the world on Christmas Day.
It won’t happen to me
The spoon theory
If you are struggling mentally or physically, if someone you love is struggling, if you have a chronic illness, mental illness, a disability or you would like to better understand what self care means.... The best thing you will have done today is read this analogy My best friend and I were in the diner, talking. [...]
How to love a woman who has been to hell and back
The woman who has been to hell and back is not easy to love. Many have tried. Most have failed. The weak need not attempt, for it will take more strength than you even know you possess; more patience, more resilience, more tenacity, more resolve. It requires a relentless love, one that is determined and [...]
What’s really in your cup?
A clever analogy that is too good not to share. Enjoy!! " I love this analogy! You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? "Well because someone bumped into me, of course!" WRONG ANSWER [...]